Since my arrival in Quebec, I’ve noticed a cultural trend: the Butterfly Evolution

BUTTERFLY EVOLUTION? Sounds poetic and cute… it must be a good thing, right? We surf a little here, collect a little info there, then we go to another workshop/meditation/methode/the new ‘In’ thing… we have fun, we learn.

We feel like we are progressing, but in reality, the ‘Butterfly Evolution’ style is hampering our progress. Why is that?

After two or three months of sessions with me, during which they tell they absolutely love the transformation taking place and are stunned by the results, the Butterfly tendancy comes back up. The Butterfly tell me ‘Oh, I went to this workshop over the weekend, it’s great, it’s wonderful, I transformed a lot during the weekend’… or they tell me ‘I have to integrate all the transformation that happened during this workshop I just went to’… and they magically disapear. They are off to the next new best thing… juste as we were starting to go deep.

By constantly going to study the next best thing, or hungering for deep ‘aha’ peak experiences, we prevent ourselves from learning from the best teacher there is: OURSELVES.

SURFING OR BUILDING?

Bees go find what they need on the outside, but they constantly, regularly, obstinately go back to their hive to bring their harvest which will be transformed into honey that will feed their hive’s growth.

It is by going deep within yourself, by going to meet all shadow parts of ourselves, day after day, months after months that we really allow ourselves to find ourselves and to evolve. It is not the latest method or the latest ‘In’ thing that matters. What matters is meeting our shadow, the parts of ourselves that we’ve cast aside, the emotions we wish we weren’t feeling. What matters is meeting those parts of ourselves ‘heart first’ with love and acceptance, which allows ourselves to integrate them, to dissolve these habits… and which allows us to constantly expand our consciousness and our heart.

ARE YOU A BEE OR A BUTTERFLY?

If you want to go ‘Meet your New You’ I am inviting to contact me for a free 20 minutes to see if we want to work together in the 9 months apprenticeship program (yes, 9 months, not 9 weeks, nor 9 days… nor 9 years).

And if you want to just have a few transformational sessions and do not feel ready to engage in the apprenticeship, I am available for those too.
If you want to go ‘Meet your New You’ I am inviting to contact me for a free 20 minutes to see if we want to work together in the 9 months apprenticeship program (yes, 9 months, not 9 weeks, nor 9 days… nor 9 years).

And if you want to just have a few transformational sessions and do not feel ready to engage in the apprenticeship, I am available for those too.

When I went through my apprenticeship with don Miguel Ruiz, I had agreed to do it for a specific number of years. Even when my internal saboteur was given me all the (very good) reasons why I’d better quit, I was determined to finish the program.
I started it, I’m going to finish it. Even if I couldn’t fully grasp the implications and usefulness of what we were doing and I felt like I was wasting my money (which I didn’t have). Yes there was a time when my fridge was empty because all my money was going towards the apprenticeship program. Yes, I was fed up at times and my internal critic was judging my teachers, their personality quircks and their teachings. Yes I thought sometimes that it was a waste of money and time. Yes, I often felt discouraged. Yes, I often forgot how I used to be before and thought I wasn’t progressing. Yes, I shopped around for other transformational methods and integrated them in my journey. And yes, I continued and persisted… and I continued the daily work and I keep on doing it today… and for that I am very grateful.

If we have a Butterfly Attitude, our internal saboteur will have a field day in order to throw us off at the first difficulty: Ah, I don’t have any money, I can’t continue’ or ‘I understand the principles, it’s so simple, I’ll continue on by myself’. We look for a miracle solution. Instead of taking full responsability for our evolution, we try to rely on outside sources – a new healer, a new method, a new cure.

There is no ideal method. There are method and guides that will be a fit for you, others not so much.

There is no ideal method. The solution does not lie in seeking a miracle solution. Meeting your New Self is daily work that has no end because expansion is always possible.

The key to your liberation is found within yourself. I invite you to go deep within, together.

Tamara Messenger
Montréal virtual number: 514-448-2661
USA : 716-462-6556
www.TamaraMessenger.com

If you want to go ‘Meet your New You’ I am inviting to contact me for a free 20 minutes to see if we want to work together in the 9 months apprenticeship program (yes, 9 months, not 9 weeks, nor 9 days… nor 9 years).

And if you want to just have a few transformational sessions and do not feel ready to engage in the apprenticeship, I am available for those too.